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Why is Trauma Therapy a type of Relationship Counselling?
I have been providing relationship counselling and trauma therapy at Kensington and online for nearly a decade now, and even longer outside my private clinic. Although not every relationship therapy is trauma therapy, I am very passionate about the notion that every...
What is relationship trauma?
When I talk about relationship trauma, I use the term relatively broadly, and often refer to the experiences that my clients define as such, in my practice at Earls Court, Kensington. I mean any experience or experiences within a relationship which has a disruptive...
Anxiety Therapy 101
Pablo crash lands on the therapist’s sofa. He smiles widely, and comments on how beautiful the ZZ plant (Zamioculcas zamiifolia) next to the sofa is. "Have you been working out of here long?", he asks. Pablo doesn’t look like a man with a problem. “What is it that you...
How to control anger in a relationship
Updated 03 January 2023 In this blog, I use my experience of helping people with anger management in trauma therapy and relationship counselling, to clear up some important misunderstandings about how to manage your anger. My hunch is that you may have been doing the...
How to manage your mental health during the coronavirus outbreak
This article is about staying sane during the coronavirus outbreak. It also makes brief reference to people who may already be struggling with emotional difficulties. There is no doubt that the outbreak and the current lockdown affect people belonging in different...
3 simple steps to silence your inner critic
What is the inner critic? Updated: 3rd January 2023 Most people are familiar with the concept of the inner critic or inner bully, especially people who have suffered childhood trauma or emotional neglect. I have offered trauma therapy and relationship...
How to choose the right partner
Few questions play on people's minds and popular media as much as this: How do I find the right partner? Many of us hope that if we know what makes a good partner we can spot a good deal. We research online. We quiz our mates about their relationships. We compare (and...
Top 5 relationship killers
Update 3rd January 2023 A lot of people wonder what they need to do to make their relationship last. As a relationship therapist who has offered relationship counselling at Kensington, London, for well nearly a decade now, I believe I may be able to help.. The long...
Understanding and managing anxiety
Updated 3rd January 2023 + Sometimes you feel as if you are about to die. You may be afraid you are having a heart attack, or that you are going mad + You dread social situations. You worry you will say something offensive or that you will be boring, or weird + You...
“I’m being dragged to relationship counselling”: A survival guide
A brief vignette of relationship counselling in London... Rajesh* sank in the sofa. He was convinced that if he tried hard enough he might disappear. Or at least provide a smaller target. Vidya* on the other hand was animated, fiery. Articulate as always. Vidya had so...