Individual Relationship Counselling in Kensington, London

Individual relationship counselling

(reviewed September 2026)

Individual relationship counselling helps you understand and change recurring patterns in intimacy, attachment and communication. It can be useful whether you are in a relationship, recovering from one, dating, or trying to understand why the same difficulties keep returning.

The focus is not on treating a couple together. It is on helping you recognise how past relationships, emotional neglect and trauma shape what happens in your relationships now.

You may already understand these patterns intellectually yet still find yourself withdrawing, over-accommodating, becoming anxious, choosing unavailable partners or repeating conflicts that feel familiar.

Working individually creates space to examine these reactions without managing another person’s response, and to develop greater emotional freedom in the way you relate to yourself and others.

Meeting with a relationship psychologist

We explore the difficulties bringing you to therapy, your relationship history and any experiences of trauma or emotional neglect. Together, we consider what you would like to change and whether my approach is a good fit. This is separate from the free 15-minute introductory phone consultation. The initial consultation is charged at the usual session fee: £150 self-funded, or £200 through private health insurance.

We also consider how discrimination, marginalisation, culture and identity affect your relationships and emotional wellbeing. My practice is neurodivergence-affirming and LGBTQIA+ inclusive.

I also understand how relocation, cultural change and leaving home behind can affect your identity, attachments and relationships.

At the conclusion of the consultation, there is usually a clear picture of what the problem is and how we can help. I would recommend that you read the sections about anxiety, childhood trauma, emotional neglect and low self-esteem in this website to get a deeper sense of what to expect in therapy.