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“Trauma that occured in relationships requires relationships to heal”

Counselling, Relationship Counselling, Online Counselling & ISTDP in London

The Relationship Trauma Psychologist

Are you anxious, feeling low, or struggle with your self-esteem? Do you feel like a failure and fear rejection/abandonment? Perhaps you have difficulties attracting/keeping partners, and feel lonely & disconnected? Or you may struggle to know what you feel and find decisions paralysing.

Maybe from the outside you function well, but sense that something is not quite right inside. Or you may have struggled for a very long time, unable to feel entirely safe in the world or even with yourself. You long to leave the past behind, and crave meaningful, fulfilling connections.

Trauma is often at the heart of many relationship difficulties. Even trauma stemming from accidents or natural disaster, sets in because of a lack of relational support in its aftermath. My clients have often experienced adverse events such as childhood trauma or childhood emotional neglect. Abuse, bullying, and bereavement have often happened early in life. Many people suffer due to changes at work like restructuring, promotion, redundancy, and new management. Experiences later in life such as moving to a new place or having a baby can often feel overwhelming due to unresolved childhood trauma. Some people have always been oppressed because of their race, sexuality, gender identity, or being neurodivergent.

The Relationship Trauma Psychologist is a face to face/online counselling & psychology service based in Earls Court, Kensington. I specialise in trauma-informed, evidence-based psychodynamic therapy for individuals and couples, including Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP).

Dynamic or psychodynamic therapy is often the treatment of choice for relationship and trauma-related difficulties. It involves identifying invisible patterns of relating to both others & ourselves, and processing trauma and neglect stemming from childhood experiences.

Moreover, many problems are relationship problems, but do not appear as such at first. For example, depression is often the outcome of learning, very early on, that no matter what we do, we cannot get the love we crave for. Anxiety disorders stem from healthy but suppressed feelings trying to break through that were not safe to feel in the family. Worrying about social and work performance is so common; we have learnt that being valued and loved by others is based on achievement.

Come and see me if you struggle with:

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Addressing trauma & neglect and its effect on current relationships

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Making romantic, family, or professional relationships work

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Making your relationship with yourself work (low-self esteem, lack of confidence, self-doubt)

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Managing your anxiety (generalised, social, health, performance, panic attacks)

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Managing your mood (depression, emptiness, boredom, agitation)

Our Approach

Is holistic, comprehensive, with a commitment to diversity

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Places ethical engagement at the centre of the therapeutic relationship

Is ambitious and aims at deep, long-lasting change.

Psychology services

How we can help

 

Individual counselling & therapy

13 years of NHS and private experience helping clients from all walks of life

Relationship & marriage counselling

Communicate better, connect better

Free resources

Articles and information on individual and couple well being

Who we are

meaningful connections are at the centre of our lives

Dr Nikos Tsigaras
PsychD MSc MSc BSc

Senior Counselling Psychologist & Founder of the Relationship Psychologist

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What is relationship trauma?

What is relationship trauma?

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Anxiety Therapy 101

Anxiety Therapy 101

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