RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING AND TRAUMA THERAPY IN KENSINGTON AND ONLINE
When insight hasn’t changed the pattern
Relationship counselling and trauma therapy for persistent emotional patterns
You may feel anxious, unable to sleep, on edge, low or unsure why things feel so difficult. You may feel lonely in a relationship, worry that someone close to you does not really see you, or find yourself facing a change you do not know how to manage. You do not need to know exactly what is wrong, or to have had therapy before, to begin.
You find yourself repeating painful patterns in relationships, struggling with anxiety or feeling disconnected from your own emotions and needs. You may read other people easily—notice what they feel, anticipate what they need—and find your own feelings much harder to locate.
Some people come to therapy after reading widely, using AI or having had therapy before. Others simply know that something does not feel right. Either way, understanding what happens does not always change what you feel or do.
You understand what happens. But it keeps happening.
Work or other responsibilities may be going well, while you feel less secure in relationships; become involved with unavailable or critical people; put other people’s needs first; or analyse feelings without experiencing meaningful change.
Some clients have lived through recognisable trauma. For others, the difficulty may be connected to what was missing: reliable emotional attention, safety, validation or help making sense of feelings. You do not need to describe your history as trauma for us to explore its effects.
I am Dr Nikos Tsigaras, a Counselling Psychologist offering individual psychological therapy in Kensington and online. My practice is neurodivergence-affirming and LGBTQIA+ inclusive. I also offer therapy in Greek and English.
Emotional neglect and relational trauma
Explore how early relationships and emotional neglect may continue to influence trust, closeness and emotional safety.
Relationship difficulties
Understand recurring patterns with partners, family or colleagues, including over-giving, withdrawal, conflict and fear of rejection.
Anxiety, self-esteem and self-criticism
Work with anxiety, perfectionism and the harsh inner standards that persist regardless of how things look from outside.
When insight has not been enough
Move beyond explaining the pattern towards noticing and changing it as it unfolds emotionally.
Emotional disconnection and low mood
Reconnect with emotions, needs and direction when you feel numb, detached or quietly dissatisfied.
Health-related emotional difficulties
Explore the emotional strain of chronic illness, unexplained symptoms and demanding medical experiences.
How I work
Looks beyond symptoms
We examine the emotional and relationship patterns that keep symptoms in place.
Works with patterns in the room
The therapeutic relationship helps us notice reactions as they happen, not only discuss them afterwards.
Aims for lasting emotional change
The goal is meaningful change in how you feel, relate and act—not insight alone.
Start with where you are
Emotional neglect, trauma and anxiety
Explore how earlier emotional experiences may shape anxiety, self-criticism and your relationship with yourself
Relationship difficulties
Understand recurring patterns in romantic, family and professional relationships
When insight hasn’t been enough
For people who understand themselves and are still stuck
About Dr Nikos Tsigaras
A focused, relational approach to lasting change
Dr Nikos Tsigaras
PsychD MSc MSc BSc
Counselling Psychologist in Kensington helping adults change persistent emotional and relationship patterns
Resources
Practical guidance on relationships, trauma and emotional change
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