RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING AND TRAUMA THERAPY IN KENSINGTON AND ONLINE
When success and insight haven’t changed the pattern
Relationship counselling and trauma therapy for persistent emotional patterns
You may be accomplished in your professional life, thoughtful and highly self-aware—yet find yourself repeating painful patterns in relationships, struggling with anxiety or feeling disconnected from your own emotions and needs.
Perhaps you can explain why these patterns exist. You may have read extensively, tried therapy before or developed considerable psychological insight. But understanding what happens has not necessarily changed what you feel or do.
You understand what happens. But it keeps happening.
You may function well professionally but feel less secure in relationships; become involved with unavailable or critical people; put other people’s needs first; or analyse feelings without experiencing meaningful change.
Some clients have lived through recognisable trauma. For others, the difficulty may be connected to what was missing: reliable emotional attention, safety, validation or help making sense of feelings. You do not need to describe your history as trauma for us to explore its effects.
I am Dr Nikos Tsigaras, a Counselling Psychologist offering individual psychological therapy in Kensington and online. My practice is neurodivergence-affirming and LGBTQIA+ inclusive.
Emotional neglect and relational trauma
Explore how early relationships and emotional neglect may continue to influence trust, closeness and emotional safety.
Relationship difficulties
Understand recurring patterns with partners, family or colleagues, including over-giving, withdrawal, conflict and fear of rejection.
Anxiety, self-esteem and self-criticism
Work with anxiety, perfectionism and the harsh inner standards that can persist even when life looks successful.
When insight has not been enough
Move beyond explaining the pattern towards noticing and changing it as it unfolds emotionally.
Emotional disconnection and low mood
Reconnect with emotions, needs and direction when you feel numb, detached or quietly dissatisfied.
Health-related emotional difficulties
Explore the emotional strain of chronic illness, unexplained symptoms, Long Covid and demanding medical experiences.
How I work
Looks beyond symptoms
We examine the emotional and relationship patterns that keep symptoms in place.
Works with patterns in the room
The therapeutic relationship helps us notice reactions as they happen, not only discuss them afterwards.
Aims for lasting emotional change
The goal is meaningful change in how you feel, relate and act—not insight alone.
Ways I can help
Choose the starting point that feels closest
Emotional neglect, trauma and anxiety
Explore how earlier emotional experiences may shape anxiety, self-criticism and your relationship with yourself
Relationship difficulties
Understand recurring patterns in romantic, family and professional relationships
When insight hasn’t been enough
For thoughtful, psychologically informed people who understand themselves but remain stuck
About Dr Nikos Tsigaras
A focused, relational approach to lasting change
Dr Nikos Tsigaras
PsychD MSc MSc BSc
Counselling Psychologist in Kensington helping thoughtful adults change persistent emotional and relationship patterns
Resources
Thoughtful guidance on relationships, trauma and emotional change
Why is Trauma Therapy a type of Relationship Counselling?
I have worked as a counselling psychologist for more than 17 years and have provided relationship counselling and trauma therapy in Kensington and online for over a decade. Although not every relationship therapy is trauma therapy, I am very passionate about the...
What is relationship trauma?
When I talk about relationship trauma, I use the term relatively broadly, and often refer to the experiences that my clients define as such, in my practice at Earls Court, Kensington. I mean any experience or experiences within a relationship which has a disruptive...
Anxiety Therapy 101
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