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Open Access CBT Course, Part 3: Unhelpful behaviours & putting it all together
Welcome to the third part of my Open Access course “Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with a Twist”. This is aimed at anyone struggling with psychological difficulties who would like and could benefit from a self-help course*. People who need help with anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships may like to start here. If you haven’t already, please read […]
Open Access CBT Course, Part 2: Analysing thoughts, linking to emotions
CBT for anxiety, depression, relationships, and much more Welcome to the second part of my new Open Access course “Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with a Twist”. This is aimed at anyone struggling with psychological difficulties who would like and could benefit from a self-help course*. People who search for anxiety therapy, depression therapy, or are interested […]
Open Access CBT Course, Part 1: Noticing negative thinking
CBT for anxiety, depression, relationships, and much more Welcome to the first part of my new Open Access course “Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with a Twist”. This is aimed at anyone struggling with psychological difficulties who would like and could benefit from a self-help course*. People who search for anxiety therapy, depression therapy, […]
How to manage your mental health during the coronavirus outbreak
This article is about staying sane during the coronavirus outbreak. It also makes brief reference to people who may already be struggling with emotional difficulties. In therapy, people discover that the scariest parts of life can often be in the imagination. However, there are also certain times when external reality can mirror what is going […]
3 steps to quiet your inner critic
What is the inner critic? Humans are social animals. We depend on others for protection, support, advancement. We are designed to seek connections and partnerships. We all have internal critics. The role of the inner critic is to keep us in line and preserve our connections. However, nothing holds us back more than our internal […]
How to choose the right partner
Is it a bit like shopping? Few questions play on people’s minds and popular media as much as this: How do I find the right partner? Many of us hope that if we know what makes a good partner we can spot a good deal. We research online. We quiz our mates about their relationships. […]
Top 5 relationship killers
A lot of people wonder what they need to do to make their relationship last. The long term romantic relationship can be the most formative relationship since the one we have with our parents. It can provide an opportunity to grow: to overcome blocks to our development that have taken root in childhood (limiting beliefs […]
Understanding and managing anxiety: Part 1
Sometimes you feel as if you are about to die. You may be afraid you are having a heart attack. Or that you are going mad. You dread social situations. You worry you will say something offensive or that you will be boring. Or weird. You constantly think you are going to die. You check […]
“I’m being dragged to relationship counselling”: A survival guide
A brief vignette of relationship counselling in London… Rajesh* sank in the sofa. He was convinced that if he tried hard enough he might disappear. Or at least provide a smaller target. Vidya* on the other hand was animated, fiery. Articulate as always. Vidya had so many words. She had in a short space of […]
The definitive counselling & psychotherapy guide. Part 1: Types of therapy
Types of therapy At Relationships in Mind I see both people who have had previous experiences of therapy and total newbies who have never had therapy before. I have come to appreciate how difficult this first step is and how daunting it can be to choose a therapist, especially in London, where there are so […]
Why come to relationship & couples counselling?
Why come to relationship & marriage counselling? Have you wondered whether you relationship could use some help? Being part of a couple can be a deeply rewarding experience, but intimate partnerships can also become fraught with difficulties. When concerns arise, people are sometimes unsure how valid they are and whether they might need some outside […]