Resources on relationships, trauma and emotional wellbeing
These articles offer ways to think about recurring relationship patterns, anxiety, emotional neglect and self-criticism. They reflect my work as a Counselling Psychologist with adults in Kensington and online.
Start with five patterns that can damage relationships, understanding your inner critic, or relationship trauma. If you are considering therapy, explore the areas I work with and frequently asked questions.
Top 5 relationship killers
Updated 11 September 2026 A lot of people wonder what they need to do to make their relationship last. I offer individual therapy for relationship difficulties in Kensington, London, for adults who want to understand recurring patterns and make meaningful change. A...
Why is Trauma Therapy a type of Relationship Counselling?
In my work as a Counselling Psychologist, I pay close attention to the relationship between client and therapist. This article explores why that relationship can matter when working with trauma, emotional neglect and difficulty trusting others. People who have...
What is relationship trauma?
When I talk about relationship trauma, I use the term relatively broadly, and often refer to the experiences that my clients define as such, in my practice at Earls Court, Kensington. I mean any experience or experiences within a relationship which has a disruptive...
Anxiety Therapy 101
Pablo crash lands on the therapist’s sofa. He smiles widely, and comments on how beautiful the ZZ plant (Zamioculcas zamiifolia) next to the sofa is. "Have you been working out of here long?", he asks. Pablo doesn’t look like a man with a problem. “What is it that you...
How to control anger in a relationship
Updated 03 January 2023 In this blog, I use my experience of helping people with anger management in trauma therapy and relationship counselling, to clear up some important misunderstandings about how to manage your anger. My hunch is that you may have been doing the...
How to manage your mental health during the coronavirus outbreak
Archive note: This article was written during the COVID-19 lockdowns and reflects that period. References to lockdown rules and restrictions are historical, not current guidance. For present-day support, see anxiety therapy or online therapy. There is no doubt that...
3 simple steps to silence your inner critic
What is the inner critic? Updated: 3rd January 2023 The inner critic can feel like a voice that questions your worth or punishes you for ordinary feelings and needs. This article shares three ways to begin noticing self-criticism, drawing on my work with...
How to choose the right partner
Few questions play on people's minds and popular media as much as this: How do I find the right partner? Many of us hope that if we know what makes a good partner we can spot a good deal. We research online. We quiz our mates about their relationships. We compare (and...
Understanding and managing anxiety
Updated 3rd January 2023 + Sometimes you feel as if you are about to die. You may be afraid you are having a heart attack, or that you are going mad + You dread social situations. You worry you will say something offensive or that you will be boring, or weird + You...
When relationship difficulties leave you stuck
This article uses a composite scene from couples work to illustrate patterns of withdrawal, criticism and fear. My current practice is individual therapy for adults. We can explore your experience of these patterns without your partner attending. Rajesh* sank in the...
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